Adjusting To My New Role As A Sugar Daddy

Being a sugar daddy isn’t exactly easy, which might come as a surprise for those on the outside looking in. From the vantage point of the outside observer, it may seem as if nothing could be easier than being a sugar daddy. After all, what could be so hard about having a hot young woman by your side, keeping you company at all times, going out with you on fabulous dates, and basically serving as your real life girlfriend? Seems like a walk in the park doesn’t it?

Well, I’m here to tell you that being a sugar daddy isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Sure there are periods of great joy and pleasure and even moments of sheer ecstasy. Having an attractive young woman at your side is indeed a treat, and the good times definitely outweigh the bad.

That being said, making the transition from regular Joe to a sugar daddy will require a period of adjustment, and there are some things that you may just never get used to. There are also some things that you will have to accept as part and parcel of your new role, and even a few personality traits that you will have to discard.

If all that seems like a lot of work, I’m here to tell you that it definitely is. If you have been working on the assumption that a sugar dating relationship is a lot simpler or easier than a regular relationship, you are in for a rude awakening. Sure you do away with the deep emotional investment and the long-term personal commitment, but in many ways, a sugar dating relationship is just as demanding as a romantic relationship.

I’ve already mentioned how much adjustment I’ve had to make to fit into my new role as a sugar daddy. Here are the most significant areas wherein I have had to make a change.


Obviously, the biggest adjustment involves finances. I’m not exactly made of money and like a surprising number of sugar daddies, I don’t really have thousands of dollars to throw around every month. I am fairly comfortable financially, and I don’t have any outstanding debts to worry about. Even so, maintaining a sugar baby takes a significant amount of cash, and I do have to keep tabs on my expenditures in order to ensure that my spending doesn’t get way ahead of me. I therefore had to deal with the new expense of supporting a sugar baby.

The way I dealt with this is by incorporating the cost into my monthly budget along with everything else. I pretty much take care of my own budget so it was a cinch to simply add what I was spending on my sugar baby into the books.


Time is another resource that you will have to allot more of to your sugar baby. If you have become accustomed to having your time all to yourself, having to fit in a sugar baby into the course of your regular day or week might take a bit of adjustment.

Think of all the time that you will have to spend on your sugar baby. There are dates and other social gatherings to consider, shopping and other recreational activities, and also the private time that you will spend together. In an ideal relationship, you will be enjoying all the time that you spend together, but that is simply way too much to expect of any sugar dating relationship.  Depending on how well you and your sugar baby get along, you may begrudge the amount of time that you will be expected to spend with her or look forward to it.


Commitment is one of the things I found most challenging about being a sugar daddy. Quite a few years had passed since my wife of many years and I divorced. During that time, I pretty much only had myself to look after, and I definitely enjoyed being my own man. It was only the boredom and loneliness that led me to the path of becoming a sugar daddy.

Don’t get me wrong: becoming a sugar daddy did bring a lot of good things to my life, many of which where exactly what I was after in pursuing such a relationship. But having to make a commitment to someone else took some adjustment on my part, and it was quite a while before I could even warm up to the idea of treating someone with the same respect and regard that I had for myself.


One other thing I realized when I entered into a sugar dating relationship is that it was no longer just all about me. Sure I was tasked with paying the bills and generally supporting my sugar baby in the manner that she expected. But I quickly realized that this doesn’t necessarily translate into calling all the shots. I don’t know about you but my sugar baby certainly didn’t sign up to be at my beck and call 24/7, nor did she expect to cater to my every whim.

The bottom-line–as I became thoroughly aware of–was that being a sugar daddy isn’t a position of absolute control. There is a dynamic at the core of every relationship, and it is the same way in a sugar dating relationship. Each partner should have an equal say in what goes on, apart from the obvious roles and responsibilities specific to each. I consider myself fortunate enough to know what was up early on, so take it from me: treat your sugar baby with respect and the relationship will be all the more satisfying and rewarding for it.

Everything I have mentioned thus far is from my direct and personal experience. I’m certainly not suggesting that this will be the case for everyone. If you can enter into a sugar dating relationship without having to make similarly major adjustments to your life, then more power to you. For the rest of us however, even a little bit of adjustment is not only inevitable, but necessary as well.

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