The early days of a sugar dating relationship is a period of joy, discovery, passion, and intense emotion. If you have not been in a relationship for many years prior, you are likely in a constant state of giddiness and excitement. During this period, it will seem to you that life is perfect, and you will give little thought to anything that might go wrong.
But no relationship will remain perpetually free of trouble. Over time, little quirks and personality traits that you initially find endearing may become more and more objectionable. You may also find yourself increasingly dissatisfied with the relationship, and wonder where it all went wrong.
The thing is that no relationship will remain happy and successful if no effort is made to preserve harmony and intimacy. Just like anything else worth holding on to, your partnership with your sugar baby will require a great deal of effort in order to make it work.
How relationships fail
There are many reasons why a previously enjoyable and happy relationship heads for trouble waters. Passion and affection can wane, and you may find yourself struggling to rekindle the emotions that once burned so strongly for your sugar baby. You may also simply become less enamored with certain aspects of your sugar baby’s personality, even those that may have attracted her to you in the first place.
Many sugar daddies and sugar babies also find that they are actually incompatible with each other, due to some behavioral trait that worsens over time or only becomes apparent later on. Some partners may even begin to exhibit objectionable characteristics that were previously well-concealed.
More alarming is when you find yourself at the victim end of an abusive relationship. Abuse itself can come in many forms, ranging from the physical, as when you are subjected to physical violence; to the emotional, as when you are manipulated or emotionally blackmailed. Some sugar daddies may even find themselves at the mercy of a scammer or a con artist, or a victim of all these different forms of abuse.
Looking after your best interests
One of the things we always emphasize in these blog posts in the importance of protecting yourself at all times. Most everything that can result in you being the victim of an abusive relationship can be avoided by always looking out for your best interests.
It is way too easy to become complacent within the relationship, especially if things go on without a hitch for an extended period of time. But is precisely for this reason that you should never let your guard down and to ensure that you are acting in your best interests.
We certainly don’t mean to suggest that you constantly remain in a state of paranoia or that you keep your sugar baby under a perpetual cloud of suspicion. But between becoming complacent and possibly opening yourself up to the risk of being a victim and being overly cautious, we would have to suggest going for the latter scenario.
Finding a perfect match
Another way to avoid potential disaster is to find a sugar baby that is as compatible with you as possible. Take the time to get to know your sugar baby thoroughly before you make a commitment to become her sugar daddy. Pay close attention to any personality traits and/or quirks that could indicate some serious underlying issues.
Keep in mind that something that endears your sugar baby to you at the start will become a lot less appealing a few months down the line. You should therefore resist the urge to let things slide in the hopes that these traits will not be a problem later or that they will be ironed out in time.
You should also focus your efforts on finding a sugar baby that shares many of your interests. This will give you common ground on which to establish a solid relationship. If you and your sugar baby don’t have a lot of interest in common, boredom can set in a lot sooner than you think. When this happens, there is a good chance that you will start to turn on each other or lose interest in the relationship entirely.
In contrast, a sugar baby with whom you have a lot in common is more likely to retain your interest even when your relationship occasionally hits some rough patches. At the very least, a shared interest will make your bond much stronger, making the relationship more resilient than if it was based solely on financial need or physical attraction.
Another common thread that runs through these articles is the importance of managing your expectations. While it is tempting to adopt a rosy view of the sugar dating arrangement and to see more into it than what is really there, you have to be realistic about the real nature of your relationship. Sugar dating entails providing for the financial needs of a sugar baby, for which you will get companionship and attention in return. That is really the fundamental nature of sugar dating, and to expect much more than that would simply be opening yourself up to the risk of disappointment.
Now we’re not saying that all sugar dating relationships are like that and that there is no chance of the relationship becoming something more. It is entirely possible that your sugar baby will become emotionally attached to your over time, and your relationship may transform into one that is more based on love and affection than financial need. But those cases are unfortunately few and far between, and you will simply have to be prepared for the relationship to remain what it is for as long as you are together.
If all this seems to paint a dismal picture of sugar dating, we assure you that the situation doesn’t necessarily have to be so dire. There is no reason why you shouldn’t have a happy, rewarding, and successful relationship if you keep your wits about you and keep an eye out for the danger signs. Keep a clear head and don’t let your emotions get the better of you, and your sugar dating experience could be quite an enjoyable one.