Most every sugar dating relationship involves a sexual aspect. In fact, for most sugar daddies, sex is the primary reason to have a sugar baby. For older sugar daddies, the prospect of a sexual relationship with a willing and beautiful partner–especially one that is much younger–is a tempting one indeed.
But there are a number of factors to keep in mind when embarking on a sugar dating relationship, particularly as it pertains to sex. Reality often falls short of expectations, and you may have an unrealistic view of how your needs for sex will be met–or not–within the relationship. You and your sugar baby may have very different ideas with regard to the sexual aspect of your relationship, and some women may even refuse to consider it at all.
Sex on demand?
Most sugar daddies take for granted that sex will be part of the relationship. But this isn’t always the case. Not all sugar babies will be willing to trade sex for financial support, and may prefer to have a purely non-sexual relationship. If this is acceptable to you, it is still entirely possible for you and your sugar baby to enjoy a happy and rewarding relationship.
In other relationships, sugar babies may be willing to engage in sex only after you have both gotten to know each other better. This is normal for any relationship, and it isn’t unusual for you to be dating for several weeks before sex even comes up.
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to expect your sugar baby to jump into bed with you just because you have set her up in an apartment or a condo. It will be even worse if you pressure her to give in to your wishes.
You have to understand that being a sugar daddy isn’t a license to treat your sugar baby as an employee, much less a sexual toy. Times have changed, and few sugar babies will be willing to put up with an arrangement in which they have no control over situations involving their bodies. Modern sugar dating relationships are more like partnerships, in which sugar daddies and sugar babies have equal say in the relationship. You will therefore have to discuss the sexual aspect thoroughly before making assumptions or imposing your expectations on your partner.
Sex with strings attached
That being said, you don’t want to be in a situation wherein sex is provided with strings attached. Of course, you will essentially be paying your partner for the privilege of being able to have sex with her among other perks. But if sex is used as a bargaining tool in order to get specific favors or for wishes to be followed, you should not have to put up with that either.
One way to avoid this scenario is to talk over the terms of the relationship early on. Keep in mind that sugar dating is essentially a business relationship, with payment made for services rendered or for the promise of such services being rendered. This may or may not include sex. Put all your cards on the table right from the very start and explain your sexual needs as necessary. If you are a sexual person, make it clear that you are looking for a relationship in which sex plays a primary role.
Don’t be shy about communicating your wishes. It may seem awkward at first, and some sugar babies may feel embarrassed about discussing such an intimate issue in such businesslike terms. But the alternative is to have to deal with these situations on a case to case basis as they come up, or worse, to have it become an issue in what would otherwise be a harmonious relationship. Be gracious and honest and try to avoid any inappropriate conversation or actions. If you handle it properly, there is no reason why you two shouldn’t be able to discuss sex with the same openness that you would any other aspect of your relationship.
A common problem in any relationship is mismatched sexual desires on the part of both partners. Men generally want to have more sex than women, although this isn’t always the case. You could in fact end up in a relationship wherein it is your sugar baby that will want more sex than you are able to provide.
Again, this is something that you two will have to discuss right at the start of the relationship, before it has a chance to cause a problem. Talk about how much sex you generally enjoy having and find out about her needs as well. If there is a huge discrepancy in the amount of sex you both wish to have, find out if it is possible to reach some sort of compromise.
Feelings of inadequacy
As an older sugar daddy, there is a chance that you will be unable to perform to your–or her–expectations. Erectile dysfunction is a very real concern among order men, and you may find yourself unable to carry out the act, regardless of your desire to do so. There are clinical remedies such as Viagra and Cialis that can help you overcome these problems of course, but you shouldn’t have to feel pressured to perform like a sexual Atlas each and every single time. It is way more important to find a sugar baby that will understand and accept you for what you are, rather than to force yourself to conform to unrealistic expectations with regard to sexual performance.
Mutually enjoyed sex between two willing partners is one of the most exciting and fulfilling aspects of any relationship. Even with a huge age gap between you and your sugar baby, there is no reason why you should have to give up this part of your life. If you discuss your needs honestly, accept that there are certain limitations within the bounds of a sugar dating relationship, and manage your expectations, you could very well enjoy an intensely satisfying relationship with your sugar baby.